Coping With Grief Following A Divorce

Divorce is something that many of us never give a second thought.  When we got married to our spouses the last thing on our mind was the marriage not working.  No one gets married with the intentions of getting a divorce; in fact it is against many people’s religion to have a divorce unless one of the parties dies or is causing you physical harm.  Needless to say when a divorce does happen it can be quite devastating to everyone involved.  There can be a lot of sadness and grief associated with divorce especially if the marriage has been a long one.  Even though you no longer want to be married to your spouse and the divorce was amicable, there is still a time a grief because they are no longer a part of your everyday lives.  It may seem as if your spouse has died and this will cause you to go through some grief even if it is short lived.  There are ways of coping with grief following a divorce.  Do not look at grief in a bad light.  Realize that it is part of your healing process and you need to get through it to be able to move forward in your life.

Be sure to give yourself permission to cry.  Many times people associate crying with weakness; however the opposite is actually true.  In order to move forward in your life you will need to get it all out and the best way to do this is to allow yourself to cry.  Even if you and your ex had a very agreeable divorce and you still remain friends afterwards, you will still feel sadness because that part of your life is over.  If you had children together divorce can be especially hard because you may feel as though you have ruined your child’s life forever, rest assured, you have not.

Try not to listen to what other people say about your divorce.  Honestly people can be cruel, especially if you are a religious person and divorce is against your religion.  You will most likely have to deal with a lot of folks that look down on you and let you know it every day.  Do not let this type of thing get you down because no one is perfect and if you are a Christian you are forgiven for your sins and the people who are judging you need to look more closely at their own life and stop spending so much time analyzing yours.

If you need further assistance getting through the grief from your divorce you can do some sort of exercise.  I would suggest kickboxing as a great form of relief for you.

 

If you are facing divorce in Newnan GA, contact the Law Offices of Diane M. Sternlieb, to learn how to navigate the legal implications. Schedule a consultation today at dsternlieblaw.com.

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